The beginning of the year is a wonderful time. It feels like we start with a clean slate, as if we are different people than we were in December. This is why it is so common to make New Year’s resolutions. Unfortunately, they rarely last, at least not when they are born out of guilt over the holiday excesses and self-hatred. But what if your resolution was to love yourself better in 2021?
Here are 3 simple and proven ways to get you in the habit of thinking of yourself with love. Practice them as often as you can, and you will have a bit more room to breathe in 2021. The world is full of challenges anyway, why hurt ourselves on top?
Regularly stop to appreciate yourself
Build it into your daily routine to stop and think of at least 3 things you really, really like about yourself. If you keep a journal, write it down and save it for a day when you need a pick-up. Every little thing counts: how people can always come to you for advice, how patient you are with your puppy, or how you give your best at your job or the community.
This exercise has the added benefit that most things you appreciate will have nothing to do with your body, and everything to do with who you really are: a kind, caring, wise, radiant spirit.
Do what makes you happy - and be present for it
What makes you really happy that you can do mindfully? Binge-watching series can be fun or relaxing, but does it light a fire in your heart? Probably not. Think of something that brings you true happiness at that moment, and do more of that. It can be a long walk in nature, gardening, coloring books, and - this is the real gem! - food. If you can mindfully eat a snack you usually deny yourself and really enjoy it, go for it!
Treat yourself like a friend
You will stumble on your journey to self-love, and there will be days when you feel like a failure. The key here is to not beat yourself up about it. What would you do if your best friend had the same issue? Hug them, comfort them, remind them of their worth. So do that with yourself, and you will be surprised how different the world looks when you feel taken care of.
Where can you find support?
I’m glad you asked! I built this website to be a gate for women like you to a safe haven of acceptance, love and understanding. Join the community in my Facebook group! You will find friends who will always remind you to love yourself better.